- Inform the bishop in writing of your leaving and the date of your last service.
- Notify the wardens in person and with the wardens notify the vestry of your decision to leave.
- Canons require the vestry to give formal consent of your resignation.
- The canons require the wardens to notify the bishop in writing that the parish is without a priest.
- With the wardens, send a letter to the congregation announcing that you are ending your pastoral relationship and expressing your gratitude for your mutual ministry.
- With the vestry, clarify the terms of unused leave or vacation time, plans for continuing contributions into the Church Pension Fund, and arrangements for insurance coverage.
- Notify the Church Pension Fund, securing the proper forms, if you are retiring. The bishop’s signed approval is required for retirement.
- Plan a ritual ending of your pastoral relationship within the context of worship. Refer to the Book of Occasional Services for suggestions.
- Plan an ending with parish organizations and staff.
Communicating Your Decision
- Assist the wardens with writing a letter to the congregation that outlines your plan for leaving and assures them that they will have support and guidance from the diocesan staff through the transition.
- Develop an agreement with the vestry and let the congregation know, in writing, that,
- you value their friendship;
- after you leave, you will no longer be able to function as their pastor or priest;
- it no longer will be your role to officiate at their baptisms, weddings, and funerals;
- you will come back only at the invitation of your successor; and then,
- you will attend as their former pastor.
- Notify local ecumenical groups or clergy associations that you are leaving and resign from positions you hold in community organizations.
Preparing To Go
- Schedule an exit interview with the deployment officer and a mutual review of ministry with the vestry and parish leaders.
- List all your current responsibilities, assigning a hand off date, and designating a specific person to take up that task.
- With the wardens, review all leadership positions, clarify roles and responsibilities.
- Update job descriptions for paid staff.
- Meet privately with individuals with whom there may have been tension or conflict.
- Be clear about any commitments (baptisms, weddings, funerals) you have scheduled for immediately after your leavetaking date.
Organizing For Your Successor
- Review with the wardens and vestry their leadership responsibilities for property, finance, and administration during the transition.
- Identify those in nursing homes, assisted living facilities, and home bound, noting who expects to be visited and with what regularity.
- Note significant pastoral concerns such as premarital counseling, pregnancies, divorces in process, terminally ill, and the bereaved, remembering to maintain confidentiality of matters that are pastorally sensitive.
- Note preplanned funeral arrangements and where the information is filed.
- Prepare a calendar for the upcoming year, including Episcopal visitations, homecoming, patronal feasts, sunrise services, graduations, every member canvas, stewardship, and annual meeting.
- Leave clear instructions about your congregation’s participation in community or ecumenical services, as well as their expectations about preaching and hosting future events.
- Balance the discretionary fund and turn it over to the wardens.
- List any special funds, their purpose, use and signatories, including scholarships and other financial commitments.
- Prepare a file of audits, parochial reports, annual reports, copies of budgets for three years, and by laws.
- Identify the location of the safe and who knows the combination.
- Identify the location of the bank deposit box and who has keys.
- Make sure parish lists and service registers are up to date.
- Preserve historic documents.
- Clean out personal files. Keep what you need and carefully dispose of the rest.
- Prepare a file of service leaflets for the past three years.
- Prepare a file of lay reader certificates, lists of current altar guild members, ushers, acolytes, and servers with contact information (phone numbers and e-mail addresses).
- Describe unique parish customs for the conduct of worship especially weddings and funerals.
- Prepare a file of current agreements and contact information for all groups that use the buildings.
Note the location of home communion set, chrism, last year’s palms, the nativity set, etc.
- Take out the trash. Throw away clutter that accumulated for rummage sales in closets, storage areas, or garages.
- Leave a notebook. Not a ‘how to’ but a ‘where to.’ Where to get a decent haircut, find a dentist, order Chinese take out.
- Create a contact list of parish leadership, including roles and e-mail addresses.
- Turn in your keys, clearly tagged.
- Establish a date certain for moving out of church provided housing and agree on conditions of repair and cleanliness.
- Encourage and emphasize hospitality for welcoming new clergy and their loved ones.
- Let people say good bye, thank you, and give you their blessing.
- Assist wardens in making arrangements for temporary emergency pastoral coverage immediately following your leaving.
- Don’t leave anything for the next priest. If it needs to be done, do it. Too many arriving clergy are sunk by things left undone.
Relating After You Leave
- Arrange for change of address and mail forwarding.
- After your last day, do not return to the office to check for mail, e-mail, or phone messages.
- In all cases, the responsibility belongs to clergy leaving to make clear that the pastoral relationship has ended.
- Never be involved with the search process including giving names or offering opinions about candidates.
- Avoid getting triangulated with members of the congregation and your successor.
- Be clear that it is not appropriate for you to discuss any parish business after you leave.
- Make plans to worship with another congregation.
- In the absence of a rector or interim pastor, the wardens are canonically responsible for the worship, finance, property, and administration of the parish.
- Remember, you have no official or canonical role in the parish you leave and your priestly, pastoral, and administrative functions end on the effective date of your retirement or resignation.
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